Gandhi's View

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One religious leader chose to "help a women through legalized sexual encounters" a.k.a. polygamous marriage. This religious leader claims to have chosen the "difficult path" of polygamous marriage.

Another leader, his name is Gandhi, chose to help mankind, simply by practicing what he preached consistently and with integrity. And he has succeeded to do so for the whole mankind of his era.

And quoted below is his view on sex and marriage. He too has chosen the difficult path, that is to spread out love to other human being while restraining his lust and desires. See the difference? So which stance would you respect more?

From The Mind of Mahatma

Human society is a ceaseless growth, an unfoldment in terms of spirituality. If so, it must be based on ever-increasing restraint upon the demands of the flesh. Thus, marriage must be considered to be a sacrament imposing discipline upon the partners, restricting them to the physical union only among themselves and for the purpose only of procreation when both the partners desire and the prepared for it.

What chiefly distinguishes man from the beast is that man from his age of discretion begins to practice a life of continual self-restraint. God has enabled man to distinguish between his sister, his, mother, his daughter and his wife.

The brute by nature knows to self-restraint. Man is man because he is capable of, and only in so far as he exercises, self-restraint.

What is Brahmacharya? It is the way of life which leads us to Brahma (God). It includes full control over the process of reproduction. The control must be in thought, word and deed. If the thought is not under control, the other two have no value.

Brahmacharya, like all other observances, must be observed in thought, word and deed. The foolish man, who appears to control his body, but is nursing evil thoughts in his mind, makes a vain effort. It may be harmful to suppress the body, if the mind is at the same time allowed to go astray. Where the mind wanders, the body must follow sooner or later. It is one thing to allow the mind to harbour impure thoughts; it is a different thing altogether if it strays among them in spite of ourselves. Victory will be ours in the end, if we non-co-operate with the mind in its evil wanderings.

From that day when I began brahmacharya, our freedom began. My wife became a free woman, free from my authority as her lord and master, and I became free from the slavery to my own appetite, which she had to satisfy. No other woman had any attraction for me in the same sense that my wife had. I was too loyal to her as husband and too loyal to the vow I had taken before my mother to be slave to any other woman. But the manner in which my brahmacharya came to me irresistibly drew me to woman as the mother of man. She became too sacred for sexual love. And so every woman at once became sister or daughter to me.

If I were sexually attracted towards women, I have courage enough, even at this time of life, to become a polygamist. But I do not believe in free love –secret or open, Free, open love I have looked upon as dog’s love, secret love is, besides, cowardly.

Comments

The difference between humans and animals?

I find it sadly amusing that people who oppose sexual freedom keep saying that sexual restrain is a way to get closer to God, and that it separates us from animals. First of all, we are animals. Humans are mammals, not godly creatures separated from nature. It is the belief that we are above nature that leads us to destroy it. Second, if God gave me sexual pleasure, sexual desires, and so on, He, She, or It must have wanted me to enjoy sex. Our desire is normally aimed at more than one person in life. That is how God desired that we are. God could have made us sexless if He, She, or It found sex offensive. Third, we have been given this world to enjoy it. Just go back to God and tell Him, Her, or It that you deprived yourself from enjoying this gift because you wanted to be good. It is as if someone left the present you give inside the box, never using it. When you ask why, they say that they used restrain. So, why give them the gift in the first place?
Finally, most wars, massacres, mass rapes, etc. are commited by sexually repressed people who act in the name of their religion. I can't see how this is good.

Polygamous versus Non-sexual Marriage

I am definitely anti-polygamy, just to make it clear. However, I have always been curious as to how Mahatma Gandhi just came to this 'enlightenment' and started practicing Brahmacharya while he was married to his wife. I always thought he went the other extreme of his sexuality. Instead of taking marrying another women to satisify his sexual desire, we went to just no sex. Period. Well, this man, as respectful as he was, WAS married. To a woman. How about her sexual needs? Or I guess it was totaly cultural. In those days, woman's sexual needs did not exist, or to be more precise, was not admitted of its existence. Women's whole existence is to take care of men, sexually, and other needs.

Polygamous versus Non-sexual Marriage

I am definitely anti-polygamy, just to make it clear. However, I have always been curious as to how Mahatma Gandhi just came to this 'enlightenment' and started practicing Brahmacharya while he was married to his wife. I always thought he went the other extreme of his sexuality. Instead of taking marrying another women to satisify his sexual desire, we went to just no sex. Period. Well, this man, as respectful as he was, WAS married. To a woman. How about her sexual needs? Or I guess it was totaly cultural. In those days, woman's sexual needs did not exist, or to be more precise, was not admitted of its existence. Women's whole existence is to take care of men, sexually, and other needs.

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